This is a must read for both parents and non-parents. Trust me. Below I put some tidbits from the article that I feel really strong about.
Unless "so-and-so" needs professional help, I guarantee "so-and-so" knows that her dog is not a human child. She also knows that having a dog is nothing like having a kid. What she's really saying is "Oh! Yes. I also have something in my life that poops AND brings me joy."
Too often, we parents downplay non-parents' concerns by pulling ours out and tossing them on the table.
It's not a competition. If, on a scale of 1 to Passing Out Awkwardly in the Shower and Waking Up When the Hot Water Runs Out, your friend is at a 7, and three weeks into your first newborn you were at a 9, that DOESN'T MAKE YOUR FRIEND ANY LESS TIRED.
but your pre-kid life was an important part of your story, and your non-kid-having friends are a part of that. Don't dismiss that part of your life the way most people skip the foreword to a novel they really want to read. By dismissing the "before" as just a buildup to your kids, you are not only dismissing your friends, but you're also implying that their story has not started yet.
And this last one I feel REALLY STRONGLY about. I don't care who you are, whether an acquaintance, family member, best friend, or hairdresser.... you may not know what is going on behind closed doors on sensitive subjects such as having kids. BE MINDFUL.
Some people don't want kids and choose not to have them. Some people really want kids and are trying incredibly hard to have them. Indicating to these people that having kids is the only way they will reach some higher level of understanding is both inconsiderate and rude.
What do you all think?