Dec 17, 2012

Let's get this out of the way

I was hurt this past weekend from twitter people.

I will tell you that I got unfollowed by two people who thought I was being rude.  Um, I wasn't being rude, but trying to show you my point. But whatever.

It started with this. (and no, I am not going to call out the person who wrote this because that's wrong):

Person 1
Please, out of respect, stop tweeting about giveaways or your mundane day to day activities. It's insensitive.

My response to this and 200 other people who were tweeting along the same lines:

A tragedy has occurred. We all deal with it diff. Who are you to tell people to not tweet about daily activities? We are all diff. Let it be

So I replied to Person 1 just to remind her...

@Person 1 It can also be that some people don't want to dwell on such a tragedy. No shame in them trying to continue with routine.

Her response:
Person 1
 Yeah...some of us are more sensitive than others.

REALLY?!?!?! That's your arguement? My response

@Person 1 its not about being sensitive. It's about a sense of normalcy... because that usually helps in dealing with such tragedies.

Then Person 2 jumped in....
Person 1
 Yeah, I understand that. I just don't think it's appropriate to act like nothing happened.
14 DecPerson 2
Person 1  I agree with Person 1
Person 2 Person 1 so when is it appropriate to go back to life?

After that last tweet I sent out.... they both unfollowed me and said "for the person being rude, I'm praying for you".  I know this because I follow them and can still see their tweets. 

I wasn't trying to be rude, I was just trying to make a point that there is NO appropriate time to go back to life.  For some, it's 5 minutes right after the tragedy happened... and for others it's weeks.  EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT AND HANDLES THINGS LIKE THIS DIFFERENTLY... what is so hard to understand about that. I was called rude just by trying to have them see the other side of things and how other people react.  

Whatever... I understand we all have our difference of opinions.  But don't call me rude when you are telling everyone to stop tweeting about daily activities and just focus on a TRAGEDY.  

It's depressing.  You can sit there and watch the news for days on end and cry everytime you hear something new (and I know this because I see your tweets) and continue to get even more depressed about the situation that can't be changed at all. 

But then Person 1 tweeted this and I about lost it:
"I'm surprised we haven't heard more of peoples experience from within the school." 

REALLY?!?!?! Maybe because the people inside were KIDS.... and who wants the media to get up in their faces of six and seven year olds and ask them to tell us what they saw INSIDE THE PLACE THAT IS FILLED WITH BODIES AND BLOOD?  Do you really think it's OK for kids to tell the story over and over again so they can be even more traumatized?  

Now that I can't handle. Shame on you for wanting to know every detail of this story.  It happened. It is NOT something that we can predict would have happened.  

And the media needs to go home. For the love of God, let those people grieve without being reminded what happened to THEIR BABIES every minute and second of the day!!!!!! 

End of my rant. 

This was not written to be rude or offend anyone... just my opinion.

Also, Everyone is having blog of silences being done... I'm sorry, but I won't be particpating or linking up.  My silence is every night I pray.  I can't handle watching the news anymore or hearing about it, so come tomorrow, I am going to try to move on from this tragedy and look forward to what we have now.  I will be going about my life as normal as possible so it doesn't hurt as much.  


Nikki said...

People tend to forget that twitter is a way to express the self And like you said everyone deals differently. Ppl need to stop jumping on each other for dealing the best way they can and know how. Screw person 1 & 2

Anonymous said...

I agree with you. How insensitive of person 1 and 2 for expecting everyone to FOCUS on a trajedy. People grieve and react differently. To this day it bothers me that I was able to move forward from my sister's murder than the rest of my family. It's only been 6 months. Does it mean I cared less? Absolutely not. It just means that I deal differently. I think the people who WANT to be depressed about it 24/7 and want to know the sordid details are being selfish. This is NOT about you. Don't play a martyr. Yes we all are saddened but why are we going to ignore "the mundane" when it's all we CAN do.

Jen said...

WOW! I 100% agree with you. We all deal with things differently. I'm not going to dwell on what happened because it doesn't solve anything nor make anything better. It is tragic what happened but I will not stop living my life because of it.

Julie said...

Its unfortunate that people act that way. I really wanted to deck a lady at the gym the day it happened because of her remarks and how the teachers didn't do anything about it, yadda yadda. I'm not going to get on my soap box either but like I told another blogger, the people who were a part of this tragedy would want us to move on with our lives too.

Shanny said...

Wow... The point of any of these social medias is for us to express ourselves as we like. I absolutely do NOT think you were being rude, I've been following you long enough to know that you are a caring sweet person. Deal with it by living your life and in turn throw back some positive vibes back into the world and to those families. Their lifes will never be the same, we know that... so we pray for them, it's all we can do. That being said, I'm not a Twitter follower of you... I honestly don't understand the thing too much, never tried BUT I am now going to follow you so you lose them but you gain me, woot woot!