That statement right there makes me cringe. C-R-I-N-G-E.
First of all, there are no pros to giving birth early.... it is the most stressful thing anyone has to go through.
I missed out a lot on the life cycle of pregnancy and it makes me sad. There were certain things that I didn't get to experience that are special moments that other woman have. I wanted that. I wanted to experience pregnancy to the end. Here are some things that some people take for granted that I wish wasn't taken from me.
- I wasn't able to feel kicks anymore or even see my belly move in weird ways with an elbow sticking out. I know this freaks some people out, but I was looking forward to the day I can take a video of a limb protruding out of my belly. Weird I know.
- I don't have any bump pictures pass 30 weeks. That's a whole 10 weeks of bump pictures that won't be in the baby album.
- We didn't get to have our first family photo when Sophia was first born with me in the hospital bed holding the baby and the hubs next to us. Instead, Sophia was rushed to the NICU. We only currently have one family photo... which is a selfie we took with the both of us looking exhausted... and this is when she came home from NICU. That classic picture that most people have, we don't have.
- Hubs and I didn't get to enjoy our last moments as husband and wife before baby comes. Sounds selfish, but everyone always takes some time to do something special before baby comes and we simply didn't.
- We didn't get to experience the whole "my water broke!" scenario. I don't know what it feels like to go into labor naturally. I can't tell you the story of me calling the hubs and being like "It's baby time!"... instead I had to call hubs to say something is wrong and they are admitting me. Trust me, that phone call was not me excited about possibly giving birth and meeting our baby girl.... it was more of "I am scared shitless and don't think this is going to turn out well" type of call.
- I didn't have that time before baby comes for me to reflect on this new journey our life was about to take.
There are so many things I didn't get to experience. People say "you didn't miss anything..." but I did. I missed out on 7 weeks of pregnancy... 7 weeks of experiences that a mother has with her unborn child. I will never get that back.
So if you are ever in the situation... don't tell a woman who gave birth early that she didn't miss anything. Because you have no idea how many times all the things she "missed" has gone through her head. Just give support and reassure them that everything will work out the way it's suppose to.