Oct 17, 2013

That Friend Who Thinks They Are Better Than You

I have talked about this subject once before when I wrote probably one of the blog posts that I am most proud of.  I am proud of it because I wrote it even though I knew that some people would have strong opinions on it.

But again, here I am reminding people that we are all equal.  There is not one person who is better than the other.  YOU are not better than me, and vice versa.  If you are walking around thinking like you are, then I feel bad for you.

With social media these days, it's easy to hide behind the computer.  It's easy to write things that are plain out rude and mean because you can always come back and say, "Oh I didn't mean it that way... that wasn't my tone."  But in reality, you know exactly how it can come off as, but still wrote it.  Shame on you.  Nothing pisses me off more than seeing comments on other friends post/tweet/instagram that makes fun of them for their weight.  How dare YOU judge someone else. I don't care if it's an acquaintance or a close friend, you will be surprised on what you DON'T know about that person's struggle.  But to post something that comes off as mean is completely a douche thing to do.  Yes, DOUCHE. Especially when the last time I checked, you are not gracing the covers of Vogue magazine or GQ magazine. And by adding "hahaha", "just kidding", "lol", "bawahahaha" doesn't make it OK.

Posting comments such as these are hurtful, especially when that person's social network can view that as well.  I am pretty sure you wouldn't like it if people posted to your social networks making fun of your weight for all of your friends to see.

How about we try to be nice.  It's that simple.
Just. Be. Nice.

Why this has to be said is beyond me.  Apparently common sense is no longer valid when people feel like they can run their mouth.  Just because you're behind a computer doesn't mean people don't know who you are.  Strangers to you who now know how douchey of a person you are.  How sad is that?  Your first impression has degraded you simply from a comment you put up.

Degraded.  Let that sink in.
Think about that the next time you want to  post something that comes off as rude and mean.

This is something that we all need to practice. Hell, I am not here saying I am effin perfect because I am far from it, but I will never allow myself become a BULLY to make myself feel better.  That's not me.

And remember, if you allow yourself to be the bully... it then becomes fair game for some people.

If you can dish it out, make sure you're prepared to take it because there are some people who will not give a shit and do the same crap to you.  I think it's wrong to do that, but let's face it, not everyone likes being the better person.

As Ellen says, Be Kind To One Another.

14 comments:

Britt said...

There are so many times a blog post pisses me off and I want to leave a nasty comment. But...I stop because a - all I'm going to do is bring myself down to this person's level by addressing their stupidity and b - it's just inviting twitter/IG/facebook drama into my life that I really don't want. It's never worth it, especially because that person is more than likely going to rally up fangirls with no brains to retaliate against you.


But...I agree. I kid around a lot but sheesh, I would NOT joke about someone's weight unless my swizzle stick BFF calls herself fat again. Argh.

lil desiqua said...

Amen!
They were talking about bullying on the radio today, especially with kids. A parent called and said her son attempted suicide- he's 9. So sad. It's so easy to sit behind a screen and spew crap because you don't agree with someone else's opinion/appearance/situation- and so unnecessary! I agree with you. As my momma always said "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all!"

Jen said...

Oh I can relate to this so much! I am constantly amazed at how mean people can be especially those who claim to be your friend.

Shanny said...

Well said!

The Peanut Program said...

nothing to add to this but well written post!!!

Ashley said...

It is so sad that this has to be said. I guess nobody learns the old adage "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" anymore. I'm glad you put this out there though.

The Suburban H.I.T. said...

I can honestly say I posted something awful (although many people felt it was funny) once and I felt so bad about it because that's just not me. So the next day, I made fun of myself on my blog. That being said, we all make mistakes, but when it happens repeatedly, there is no excuse. Well said.

The Suburban H.I.T. said...

I can honestly say I posted something awful (although many people felt it was funny) once and I felt so bad about it because that's just not me. So the next day, I made fun of myself on my blog. That being said, we all make mistakes, but when it happens repeatedly, there is no excuse. Well said.

Julie said...

I posted something like this the other day entitled Bullies. I'm tired of people just doing what they want and hurting those around them.

Confessions of a Northern Belle said...

I can't stand how people think that they can "say" whatever they want on social media.

Michael said...

As I was expecting, you're right on point here. I try to be extra mindful of what I'm writing (e-mail, comment, FB, etc.) because it IS online and someone COULD misconstrue my tone. My gay BFF and I joke constantly but to someone who doesn't understand our relationship and inside jokes, I look like a raging bitch.

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