Let's Talk About Having Babies

If you're new around these parts, you probably don't know that the hubs and I have been married for 4 1/2 years.  Our 5th wedding anniversary will be this November... holy crap time flies!

One thing that may separate us from other couples who have been married for 4 years is that we have yet decided to have kids.  That's right, going on 5 years of marriage and we still don't have kids.

There are so many people that gasp at this notion.  I feel like some people get so upset that we don't have kids yet.  I am 29 years old. Hubs is 30.  We just are enjoying our life now as a married couple and at this moment, kids don't fit in it.

Reasons we don't have kids yet:

• We love to vacation.  I don't know why other couples barely take vacations, but we will sacrifice other luxuries to have a vacation.  Let's face it, vacations are made for relaxation and to de-stress.  Why you would rather spend money on a materialistic thing than put aside for a vacation is beyond me.  
• We can dedicate more time to hanging out with friends and family now with no worries if it's kid friendly or not. 
• We are NOT ready for those late night wake up calls.  I like my sleep and I will keep it that way for as long as I can.
• We want to be solid as a couple before bringing another element into our life.  My belief is that if you are not solid before, then troubles will just get bigger when you add a child into the mix.  And that is not fair to the child. 
• My pups is more than enough work as my child.  Trust me, I am not ready to add to that workload. 
• We enjoy our life to the fullest as it is right now. 

Now, don't get me wrong... I would LOVE to be a mom.  I want to have kids.  But I just know that the timing is just not right now. 

Why is it so hard for people to NOT be judgmental when I tell them we don't have kids and have been married for 4 years?  

So my answer to the next person... "It's my life and I'll do with it what I want to, not what is expected to."

Monday Rambling Because I Can

Oh hello there bloggy loves!

I hope your weekend was as fab as ours.  We had a blasty blast.  On Saturday, we got to go to Medieval Times and cheer for the green knight.... which lost.  WOMP

Sunday the hubs was on call so I headed to my friends house where we were having a MonaVie meeting.  As a result of that meeting, I am now a Health Recruiter and pretty excited about that.

I have been hitting the gym hard.  It literally takes 2 weeks for you to create a habit and I am hooked now. I have had weight loss and nothing feels better than knowing all that hard work is paying off.  I need to work on eating choices to boost the weight loss, but I am at a happy place now.  I did however sprain my wrist last week while in Zumba class. I did get made fun of a bit because who sprains her wrist during Zumba?!?!?! Well, I do.  And you know what, at LEAST I can say I sprained it by going HARD at Zumba and not just doing the minimum. So yeah, there's that.  Go hard or go home.  AND don't forget, I take a high cardio hour long fitness class (Zumba, Latin Heat, Hip Hop, etc) for 5 days straight. None of that Zumba once a week thing. Again, I am going HARD because to me, that's the only way to go.  My legs disagree with that statement though. Ha!

Today it is a rainy day here in Jersey which makes me rant about...

• Everyone seems to forget how to drive their car in the rain. They either go too damn slow or too fast. Get your shit together and just drive!
• Walking the dog sucks major ass.  There is nothing worse than standing in the rain while your dog decides to sniff every lawn we pass while you are praying that she pees and poops so you can delay the next walk outside. 
• Going from a 70 degree sunny day yesterday to a rainy 50 degree weather today. I have the blues.  Sads.
• Because of this rainy weather, I am now inside while blogging and eating lunch watching Teen Mom.  Not going to lie, this is not a bad thing. Go ahead and judge. 
• I just had the most amazing lean cuisine meal. It was the ranchero beef with sweet potatoes mash.  Delish! 
• I may take a nap before cleaning up this apt. 
• We are going to Costco today and you have no idea how happy this makes me.  I love that place.  But I am more excited to get a big ole bag of Spinach because I am on a spinach salad kick. 

And for all of you NJ Bloggy peeps!!! PLEASE SPREAD THE WORD OF THE BLOGGY MEET UP THIS SATURDAY!!!!

SO EXCITED! 

Love and Hate

I am sitting here with just a heavy heart.  There have been so many hateful things go on in this world.  Tragedies seem to be the norm lately.  How is that possible is beyond me.  But here we are in what we were told as little kids, the future filled with all these promises of technology advancements and a better world, but as I sit here today I feel like I live in a world filled with more hate than when I was a little kid.

I try not to watch the news anymore because it is seriously depressing.  We can't even believe anything that news reporters say anymore because most of the time, they will skew things just so they can get an edge because ultimately, it means their career will get a boost.

Since when did doing hateful things which hurt other people become something that makes them famous? Why do reporters dwell and dig and dig and dig in news days after a tragedy. Why can't we leave families alone and not remind them of horrible events three, four days later.  Why do we feel the need to have news reporters stuff their cameras in grieving friends and family.  Why do WE feel the need to know what those people are thinking?  I wish when a tragedy happened, more people will focus on praying and supporting and respecting people's privacy, than to exploit human emotions.

Love. Why is that so hard for some people to do and share?  If we all showed just a little bit of love to someone in need, we may be surprised how that can change them.  Just a little bit COUNTS.  I wish I can give some of my love to every single person in this world who is hurting in hopes that maybe, just maybe they don't feel alone.  We need to reach out to people more often, our friends and family, and we need to let them know that we are here for them.  You may think you know what a friend/family member is going through, but we truly don't know.  I know for a fact that there have been many times where I was going through a really hard time and wouldn't share with anyone, even my best friend and even my sister.  To this day, there have been things that no one knows but just me.  Sometimes, I wish if there was that reach out to me, I would have shared and probably have dealt with my issues better.  So since I feel the need for this, I am trying to do that to other people.

So, who will you share your love with today?

Things that should NOT be

• Coach "sneakers" at the gym while doing a fitness class.  NO. Actually, go ahead so you can damage your feet and joints and be in pain for the rest of your life. 
• Winter weather should have NOT appeared yesterday with a high of 51 and today we have a high of 75. Go fig.
• Spraining my wrist, that should have NOT happened yesterday.  Here I am though, with a wrapped up wrist.
• The What Would Ryan Lochte Do show. NO.
• Shaving.  Why do us woman have to constantly shave our legs and underarms???
• Laundry. Just send me some laundry fairies please. 

I can go on and on with this list, but for your sake I won't. At least not today.  

Off to eat some lunch and then heading to a bootcamp class later.  Wish me luck! 

I'm Cheating

On my husband that it is.

NO, SILLY.  But kind of.  Well, not the way you are thinking. And I am not that kind of girl. I LOVE my husband and I am not leaving, whether that is a plus or negative for him is beyond my control.  He is stuck with me.  Right hubs? xoxoxo

Anyways, I am having another relationship while I am home during the day since I have yet to find a job.  So this gives me time to get my shit together which shit = getting healthy.  So, I go to the gym and my new lover's name is Zumba, and Latin Heat, and Hip Hop.  Get a load of me, playing the hubs dirty with not 1, but 3 lovers.  :::balling:::

So, yeah I have been taking the classes at my gym to see which ones I like best and I am now hooked.  And today was awesome because I kicked Zumba's ass and made him my BITCH.  In your face Zumba. Try to trick me with your quick sexual moves, well guess what honey, I am onto to you and at least two steps ahead of you.  Yeah, how do you like them apples?

I wish I would have taken classes before because clearly it's my gym thing. It gets me to the gym and moving. Winning!

Also, this weekend was super fun.  I spent the Saturday with family who was visiting and boy did we laugh.  Then that night hubs and I had Red Bulls Soccer game.  We are season ticket holders and so glad hubs decided to do it because I thoroughly enjoying going. It's a special time for hubs and I and it's close to home with little traffic going in and getting out.

Thank goodness for the scarves they give us as season ticket holders because it was chilly that night. Apparently Spring decided she needed to take a nap and had winter babysit.

Sunday I got to meet up with some girl friends that I haven't seen in a while.  We went to an awesome Italian restaurant then to a cafe for coffee and dessert.  While getting ready, I decided to blow dry my curly hair with a diffuser and I am astonished at how much hair I have!

Yes, those are my natural curls. I am learning to embrace them. 

And I DEVOURED and felt the sugar coursing through my body after I had the guilty pleasure of eating and drinking this...

S'mores Latte = Sweet like Channing Tatum. yum. 

Tiramisu... sweet like The Rock

Driving through my town you see a lot of Cherry Blossom trees!

So pretty

And a weekend cuddling with Sadie is always a perfect weekend!

Sadie = unconditional love

Zumba, Hip Hop, Latin Heat and Kickbox Cardio - I AM DOING ALL THESE CLASSES!!!

I am on a ROLL.... I have started to go back to the gym and got over my fear of attending a fitness class.  Well, I can't be stopped now.  I already talked to you about the Zumba class I took for the first time at the gym.  So, let's talk about the Hip Hop class I took on Tuesday night.

This hip-hop class was at 9pm so it wasn't super packed which was nice.  We all had more than enough room to shake our booties.  Now, I go there thinking it is going to be all these "dancers" who know how to dance already (aka dancing at the club) and surprisingly it was a mix of woman.  At this class, there were no men which I thought was weird, but the men would rather stare at us through the glass doors instead of coming in and joining the class.  It's as if they don't understand that they CAN get a better look of our boobs and asses if they came into the class which has mirrors everywhere, DUH... wait, where was I? Oh right... hip hop class... Well, there were YOUNG and OLD and in the MIDDLE ages.  It was so funny to see the group of us, talk about melting pot.  Best part, some of the old woman were able to shake their hips and get down LOW... like REAL LOW. Better than me.  And when I say old, I am talking mid 50s and some white hair.  That shit was hilarious and also awesome for motivation.  My goal was to shake my ass and body better than the old woman next to me.  Oh yeah, and I learned some new moves that I can use at the club (because I secretly want to be 21 again) or even in the bedroom.. Yep, I said it. Oh snap!  Needless to say I came home pumped and excited and couldn't shut up about how much fun I had at the class. I am excited to go again.

So, here am I scouring the schedule of classes to see what else I can try so I can figure out which classes I like and get a schedule down.  Today I will be trying a Latin Heat class and tomorrow I will be trying the kickbox cardio class.  I am so excited.

BUT, let me tell you, getting back into shape is no joke.  I did Zumba on Monday night and then Tuesday night I did the hip hop class. Each class is an hour of INTENSE (a.k.a. Kenya could barely breathe and almost dropped to the floor) workout.  My body when I woke up yesterday literally just said "eff this, I NEED a break fatso."  I dragged myself out of bed cursing every bone and muscle in my body.  I know the pain is a good sign and I know it's going to be there.  So, I am dealing with it... but no one said I can't complain to infinity about it, because I will until I get used to it.  All I need is a full time massage therapist and I will be set.

Not sure the hubs would welcome that bill into the house.

Let's Talk Zumba Class and My First Time

Yesterday I went to my first Zumba class at the gym.  This was the first fitness class I have ever tried at the gym.

I was super shy when walking in. I went half hour before the class started and went upstairs to the bikes to warm up... this really meant go upstairs and find the bike that looked onto the class room below and see who walks in and when a good time for me to go was.  Yeah, I totally thought this out before I even left my house to the gym.

I am a shy person.  I don't feel comfortable talking to strangers at first. I have always been shy so this going into a room knowing no one was giving me a lot of anxiety.  But I did it. I walked in and asked a guy that was there, is there where Zumba is.  His response: "I don't know. I am just using the room to stretch and use the yoga ball." Great, so I walk in and see another girl and ask her.  Turns out it's her first time too.  So we stick together!  More gals and guys walk in and are talking about Zumba so I am like " OK, we are in the right place at right time."

 The ladies in the first row won't shut up. They are all so giddy and super excited to be there. Clearly, they are Zumba regulars because once class started they knew every step.  Meanwhile, me, the SPANISH chick can't even get some of these merengue moves down. What the hell is wrong with me?  I dance to this all the time at parties but here I am like a retard not knowing my left and right. Anyways, I suffered continued through the class.  AT LEAST I DIDN'T FALL ON MY FACE OR FAINT.  So, winning!

But let's talk about the people who are in the class.  You have the regulars who can shake their booty in sync with the instructor.  Then you have the newbies, like me, that are just trying to figure out left to right.  Then you have the old man that was next to me.  I was a bit creeped out because let's face it, any guy in Zumba is there to look at our asses.  But this old guy was genuinely trying to do the dance moves, so it was cute after awhile.  Then I have this older woman next to me who came to the class 20 MINUTES LATE and she literally stood right next to me.  Lady, it's called personal space and in Zumba it is a bit wider because we are dancing and moving around.  She was literally on top of me. It was annoying that eventually with all the moving around we did, she ended up in my original spot and I got pushed to the back. Well, she went to take a sip of water and you better believe I took my spot back.  Get out of my Zumba space lady or I will "accidentally" punch you. Thank you very much.

All in all, it was fun and today my body feels like it got hit by a 18 wheeler.  But that means it's working right?  Oh, and the other best part of Zumba was that I got to try out my new sneakers!!!

Loving my New Balance sneaks! 

YES, THEY ARE PURPLE WHICH HAPPENS TO BE MY FAVE COLOR!!!!!  WINNING!

Getting it done

It's Monday and I am sure most of you are dreading the weekend being over and going back to work.  But I am glad it's Monday because it means I have the week to get back into routine again.  Later today I am going to try out the Zumba class at the gym. I already missed the first class as it starts in 15 mins but they have two more today.  Let's hope I don't pass out because pretty sure that would  be embarrassing.

I am STILL looking for a job.  It's a tough market here in NJ. I am going to expand the area of search down to central and south jersey.  If we have to move, then we move. But, I am going to stay as positive as I can this week as I continue with the job hunt.  It's not fun, but I have to do it. This staying at home is great, but I always LOVED my job... and I want that again.

We spent a day at the Cherry Blossom Festival yesterday. 5 hours of walking, entertainment, and kite flying. We had such a blast with friends and family.  By the time we got home, we were exhausted!!!  It was a lot of walking and I am so glad because I slacked off on gym and walking the last few days of the week last week.  So, this definitely made up for it.  As soon as we got home into warmth since it was so windy yesterday, I realized that my face had a hot feeling.  I look at hubs and see that he is burnt.  I go look in mirror, and yep, I got sunburned as well!  Literally, hubs and I couldn't function when we got home, our brains just didn't work. Guess it was being in the sun all day with not much water as we should have. I felt so disoriented when I got home that we were in the apt bumping into each other. It was pretty funny as got to laugh about it.

Hubs and I watched the movie awards last night and I thought it was good.  We enjoyed the down time after such a fun filled day. And Aubrey Plaza... talk about AWKWARD and drunk and stupid. LOL.

Alrighty, I am off to check the weather to see if I can take Sadie to the dog park and maybe walk around the park for some exercise.

Have an awesome day bloggy peeps!!!

The Sucky and The Not So Sucky

I am pretty sure that title is going to send some weirdos to my blog.  Should be interesting when I check my stats.

So, let's get on with the Sucky list...

• I am sick and it sucks major ass.  I am trying to kick it out of my system which seems to be working, but nonetheless I still feel fatigued with a sore throat and runny nose. 
• I have had a lot of things go on in the family recently.  I have a cousin who is in the ICU with a really bad infection in his lungs and blood.  I ask for prayers for him.  He is too young and has a family that still needs him.  
• I still haven't found a job yet.  I am about thisclosetolosingmymind.  It is hard to stay positive any longer.  Just praying that the right opportunity finds me. 
• The twitter drama was unbelievable and it made me real sad for all of us bloggers who had to deal with it and/or see it unfold.  We need to concentrate on supporting each other as bloggers more. 

And the not so sucky list...

• This Sunday we are going to the Essex County Cherry Blossom Festival.  We go every year and I thoroughly enjoy taking pictures and having a fun day at the park.  And what makes it even better, is that we live 2 minutes from the park!  Feels great to have such a popular attraction be right next to us. 
• One of the good things about being home while looking for a job is that I get to spend time with my pups Sadie.  I am sure she is happy that she doesn't have to be in her crate by herself during the day.  We even go to the dog park when the weather allows. 
• I have started to get into a routine of going to the gym now that I am home too. This fat girls needs to get her shit together.  Slowly but surely, I will get there. 

That's all I got for you.  I seem to be a blogging funk.  I hope it ends today because I miss it.  But as always, I blog when the inspiration hits me. I don't do scheduled posts.  I want this little piece of Internet of mine to be 100% real.  

Here's to hoping the blogging funk goes away.  Peace out my peeps. 

Twitter Drama

Enough said.

Bittersweet Weekend

Happy Monday my loves!

Well, I hope your weekend was fantastic.  Mine was bittersweet.  By Friday, I found out that 3 people I knew passed away.  It just wasn't a great way to start the weekend, but we must move forward.  Friday I was just out of sorts.  I ended up cleaning the apt because I needed to keep myself busy... but two people passed away on Friday and I got those phone calls within 2 hours of each other.  Needless to say the cleaning was done and phone calls had to be made to deliver the news and check up on family and friends.  By the time 7 o'clock came I was just so done with the day, I had no focus and just wanted to curl up on the couch and watch TV to get my mind off of things. I ask for prayers for the families and friends who are going through a tough time this week as they bury their loved ones.

What helped get over the sadness, this weekend happened to be Wrestlemania which we had tickets for.  It was fantastic and I had such a great time with the hubs!  The set was AMAZING and the show was awesome entertainment.  Diddy even performed.  I will share pictures with you tomorrow!

And today, Jersey is getting a GOOD feel of spring weather!  I just got back from the park.  I took Sadie to the dog park and then dragged her along with me for a 2 mile walk.  She did fantastic!  BUT, she is currently on our bed sprawled out EXHAUSTED.... it's hard for my 8 pound yorkiepoo with her short little legs.  I am pretty confident she will be sleeping for the rest of the day.  Little does she know that tomorrow it's suppose to be nice again too and we are heading back to the park for our daily exercise.

I'm off to eat some lunch aka bagel bites.  Hope the rest of your Monday is fab.

Also, thanks to all those who had my family and friends in their prayers. xoxo

NUTS!!!!!

Happy Thursday!

Holy crap, it's Thursday already?!?!?!  Geez this week has flown by.

Yesterday, hubs and I went to the NYC auto show with a group of friends.

Ready for auto show 

I was super excited, really because I was going to get a chance to buy me the peanuts!!!  I am OBSESSED with these peanuts.  They are so good... horrible for your health probably... but SOO SOOO GOOD.

Nuts 4 Nuts cart in NYC

Peanuts!!!!!

Seriously, these peanuts are like GOLD to me.  Hubs bought 5 bags... so far I have consumed 2, in one day!  Eeeek.

We had a great time at the auto show.  I enjoy going.  Plus, I got to see three cute and adorable little girls who make me smile all the time!

And, I saw this beauty and soley want it ONLY because it's my fave color, purple!

Purple Challenger

I want that car!  Matches my blog design.

Oh, and apparantely we have an invisible man in our house OR the hubs literally took his shoes off and LEFT THEM RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE!!!!!

invisible man shoes

Ugh... husbands.

Red Bull gives you wings!

Happy Monday.
I hope everyone's Easter was good.
Mine was OK.  I went to church for my first Easter service since I have joined this new church.  It was great to see all the people with their families there, but it was hard since I don't really know anyone yet and had no one to talk to.  But hopefully by next year it will be different. After, we went to my mom's for dinner and I was home by 6 since hubs got called out for work. Me and the pups then cuddled on the couch and watched TV.

Saturday we went to a Red Bulls game! It was PERFECT weather and a great game since they won!

Representing as a season ticket holder! 

What a beautiful sky! 

Sis-in-Crime joined in the fun... but we had a row between us.. WOMP

Hubs and I

Let's Go Red Bulls! 

We had a blast at the game and they won which made it even better.

How was your weekend and Easter?

Don't forget, please spread the word!