Here am I

Here am I...

• Home from an interview today that the job sounded like it would be a perfect fit, except for salary. You know when you get that feeling that as soon as you walk into a place you tell yourself, oh I can see myself here.  Well that was the case with this interview, but what I failed to realize was that it was an entry level position which is not where I am at.  But I enjoyed talking with the person about the position and company. Guess you never know... maybe something down the lines will come along and he will remember me. 
• Making some lunch before I head to the gym.  
• Still with the same number of followers and not much hate mail after my last post about fur mamas celebrating Mother's Day.  Y'all are awesome and thanks for the support. 
• Looking at my dog Sadie laying out on the couch as if she had a long hard day.  I think she is getting used to me being unemployed so she can lounge on the couch all day. 
• Trying to be a wife, fur mama, sister, daughter and friend and lately I have not been balancing those areas so well.  Time to re-focus. 
• Just aching to start working in the marketing field to let my creative juices flow!!!  
• With watery eyes, and stuffy nose thanks to allergies that seem to be kicking everyone's butt lately. 
• happy being ME. 

Happy thirsty Thursday my friends.  Get your drink in. 

Who are You to Tell Me that I Can't Celebrate Mother's Day as a Fur Mom

So, I have been MIA from twitter this weekend simply because I was enjoying my time with family and friends.

Then last night as I am unwinding down and decide to check twitter, I see that someone posted this..

You know how you know you're not a real Mom? You think Mother's Day includes "fur moms."

Um, excuse me? Who the hell are you to dictate what constitutes a mother?  And first of all, just be happy that Hallmark created this dam holiday for moms.  In my eyes, it is Mother's Day and Father's Day every day.

So I sent out some tweets in response to it and got really frustrated because some people can't have kids, and their pets are their kids.  Did you think about that sweetie when you posted?  How about you thank God for giving you the opportunity to have kids unlike some other families who simply can't.

Oh, and to further prove that fur moms kind of do the same thing as "real" moms, here's a list of things that I find to be exactly what both types of mom have to do...

• You go to the doctor, I go to the vet.
• You have health insurance for your child, I have pet medical insurance.
• You have to give medications to your child when they are sick, I also have to give medicine to my dog when she is sick.
• Your child needs to get vaccinations, My dog has to get vaccinations.
• You have to rush to the ER with your child when something is gravely wrong, I have to rush to the pet hospital.
• You have to clean throw up, or pee, or poop when child is sicks, I have to clean throw up, pee and poop on a regular basis.
• You have to potty train, I have to potty train.
• You have to feed your child, I have to feed my dog. 
• You have to cook for your child, I also cook healthy treats and food for my dog.
• You have to make sure your child brushes their teeth, I also have to brush my dogs teeth. 
• You buy clothes for your child, I buy my dog shirts and sweaters since she can't handle cold weather very well.
• You have to get your child's haircut, I have to get my dog groomed. 
• You go to the park with your child, I take my dog to the dog park.
• You give your child a bath, I give my dog a  bath.
• You give snuggles when your child is sick and try to make them feel better, I snuggle with my dog when she is sick. 
• You celebrate birthdays, I celebrate birthdays.
• You buy toys, I buy toys
• You discipline and teach respect to your child, I discipline and teach respect to my dog.
• You go on play dates, I go on doggy play dates.
• You bring your child to school, I bring my dog to training school.
• You give your child hugs and kisses, I give my dog hugs and kisses.
• You LOVE your child, I LOVE my dog.

So, tell me.... do you believe there is much difference?  I don't. Now, I am not saying it's 100% match, but I sure do consider my dog PART OF MY FAMILY and I am her mama. I am the one who nourishes her.  

I do what YOU do. 

So, next time you want to spout out something ridiculous and rude like that, think about the "fur mom" who can only BE A FUR MOM.  Think about how you just hurt her feelings. 

I refuse to mention the twitter handle of the person who wrote the above, but go ahead and do your research on my twitter if you feel the need to know. But, let's remember to keep harsh words out of the way and let's not stoop to her level.  We are better than that. 

To all my moms, moms-to-be and fur moms, hope your day yesterday was wonderful.  

And as Ellen would say, 

BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER

What YOU Think of Fat People, Yes I am Talking to You!

I really didn't want to have to write this post because I know I am probably going to be "talked" about... but I have a real strong feeling that this needs to be said so that maybe someone out there might think differently next time.

As some of you may have figured out, I have FINALLY gotten my fat ass together and started working out and trying to eat better so I can become HEALTHY.  Please note that I did not write skinny.

I don't want to be skinny.  I want to be healthy.  There is a HUGE difference.

Today at the gym, I saw the same girl that I have been seeing for the last 3 weeks at the gym in the Zumba class.  Now if anyone else looked at her, they would say she is fat.  If they saw her outside of the gym, they would automatically think that she doesn't work out and judge her for being fat.  I am purposely not using the word "overweight" because let's face it, more people use the word fat.  But what those people who are standing there and judging DON'T KNOW is that the girl who is currently maybe about 250 pounds has LOST 100lbs SO FAR.  Now she deserves an award for losing almost 100lbs!!!!  But you see, if you weren't at the gym and heard her talking about her journey, you wouldn't have known that.  We as society judge so quickly with the notion of fat people.  We will gladly talk to our friends about that fat person, even if it's a friend or stranger!

So, I am here to say

"Shut up and stop judging fat people ESPECIALLY if you don't even know them.  Who are YOU to judge?  God? No, you are most certainly not.  So how about you spend some time not judging but encouraging."  

I know, that there is a strong and maybe mean statement but it had to be said.

Why people can be so mean and ignorant is beyond me, but lately all over blog/twitter/instagram/facebook land I have seen people judge others for their weight, but yet they have no idea who that person.  So, how about we stop trying to make ourselves better by calling someone else fat and let's start being motivators for a healthy lifestyle.

Linking up:

Oh the effin pain!!!!!!

So, today I came home from gym.  I had my towel draped over my shoulder.  I was fumbling with my bags while I was getting my sneakers off in our hallway.  When I bend over I feel a sharp pain in the back of my arm.  I get up and take towel off and see a yellow jacket clinging on to it.  I RUN inside and close the door so the bee doesn't get in the house.  Hubs must have thought I was being chased because I immediately drop all my  bags and yell at him...

Me: "I THINK I GOT STUNG BY A BEE.  LOOK LOOK IS THERE A STING!!!!"

Hubs: "Yeah, something stung you."

Me: "GOOGLE ABOUT BEE STINGS... OH MY GOD THIS HURTS THIS HURTS SO BAD."

At this point, the PAIN FROM HELL sets in.  Now this is my first time getting stung by a bee so I am also freaking out the What If I am Allergic?!?!?!?!  Hubs looks up the info and starts asking me if I am breaking out in hives, can I breathe OK, am I dizzy, etc....  At the point, I was able to say yes I can breathe OK, no hives and I think I am just dizzy from the EFFIN PAIN FROM HELL WHY ON EARTH DOES THIS HURT SO MUCH I JUST WANT TO CRY.

Seriously, worst pain ever.

So, we washed the wound and realized there was no stinger.  The type of bee was a yellow jacket that stung me. I took Motrin right away and slapped an ice pack on the sting so fast so I can go numb quickly.

Here we are about 45 minutes after the incident and it is my pleasure to tell you that I am alive and well.  No running to the ER for an epi shot.  No major swelling besides in the area of the sting.

This shit still hurts so I am going to go for another round of ice pack for 20 minutes.

So, this post is a big F U to yellow jackets... who AFTER THE HUBS TOOK A SHOE TO IT AND SMASHED IT, it was STILL ALIVE and flew away when hubs put it out the window.

WTF is up with yellow jackets and the not dying after being smooshed by a freaking sneaker??!?!?!

Also, I think I won't be leaving my apt for the rest of the day today in case that yellow jacket is just WAITING for me to come out.

F U YELLOW JACKET!

Let's Talk About Having Babies

If you're new around these parts, you probably don't know that the hubs and I have been married for 4 1/2 years.  Our 5th wedding anniversary will be this November... holy crap time flies!

One thing that may separate us from other couples who have been married for 4 years is that we have yet decided to have kids.  That's right, going on 5 years of marriage and we still don't have kids.

There are so many people that gasp at this notion.  I feel like some people get so upset that we don't have kids yet.  I am 29 years old. Hubs is 30.  We just are enjoying our life now as a married couple and at this moment, kids don't fit in it.

Reasons we don't have kids yet:

• We love to vacation.  I don't know why other couples barely take vacations, but we will sacrifice other luxuries to have a vacation.  Let's face it, vacations are made for relaxation and to de-stress.  Why you would rather spend money on a materialistic thing than put aside for a vacation is beyond me.  
• We can dedicate more time to hanging out with friends and family now with no worries if it's kid friendly or not. 
• We are NOT ready for those late night wake up calls.  I like my sleep and I will keep it that way for as long as I can.
• We want to be solid as a couple before bringing another element into our life.  My belief is that if you are not solid before, then troubles will just get bigger when you add a child into the mix.  And that is not fair to the child. 
• My pups is more than enough work as my child.  Trust me, I am not ready to add to that workload. 
• We enjoy our life to the fullest as it is right now. 

Now, don't get me wrong... I would LOVE to be a mom.  I want to have kids.  But I just know that the timing is just not right now. 

Why is it so hard for people to NOT be judgmental when I tell them we don't have kids and have been married for 4 years?  

So my answer to the next person... "It's my life and I'll do with it what I want to, not what is expected to."

Monday Rambling Because I Can

Oh hello there bloggy loves!

I hope your weekend was as fab as ours.  We had a blasty blast.  On Saturday, we got to go to Medieval Times and cheer for the green knight.... which lost.  WOMP

Sunday the hubs was on call so I headed to my friends house where we were having a MonaVie meeting.  As a result of that meeting, I am now a Health Recruiter and pretty excited about that.

I have been hitting the gym hard.  It literally takes 2 weeks for you to create a habit and I am hooked now. I have had weight loss and nothing feels better than knowing all that hard work is paying off.  I need to work on eating choices to boost the weight loss, but I am at a happy place now.  I did however sprain my wrist last week while in Zumba class. I did get made fun of a bit because who sprains her wrist during Zumba?!?!?! Well, I do.  And you know what, at LEAST I can say I sprained it by going HARD at Zumba and not just doing the minimum. So yeah, there's that.  Go hard or go home.  AND don't forget, I take a high cardio hour long fitness class (Zumba, Latin Heat, Hip Hop, etc) for 5 days straight. None of that Zumba once a week thing. Again, I am going HARD because to me, that's the only way to go.  My legs disagree with that statement though. Ha!

Today it is a rainy day here in Jersey which makes me rant about...

• Everyone seems to forget how to drive their car in the rain. They either go too damn slow or too fast. Get your shit together and just drive!
• Walking the dog sucks major ass.  There is nothing worse than standing in the rain while your dog decides to sniff every lawn we pass while you are praying that she pees and poops so you can delay the next walk outside. 
• Going from a 70 degree sunny day yesterday to a rainy 50 degree weather today. I have the blues.  Sads.
• Because of this rainy weather, I am now inside while blogging and eating lunch watching Teen Mom.  Not going to lie, this is not a bad thing. Go ahead and judge. 
• I just had the most amazing lean cuisine meal. It was the ranchero beef with sweet potatoes mash.  Delish! 
• I may take a nap before cleaning up this apt. 
• We are going to Costco today and you have no idea how happy this makes me.  I love that place.  But I am more excited to get a big ole bag of Spinach because I am on a spinach salad kick. 

And for all of you NJ Bloggy peeps!!! PLEASE SPREAD THE WORD OF THE BLOGGY MEET UP THIS SATURDAY!!!!

SO EXCITED! 

Love and Hate

I am sitting here with just a heavy heart.  There have been so many hateful things go on in this world.  Tragedies seem to be the norm lately.  How is that possible is beyond me.  But here we are in what we were told as little kids, the future filled with all these promises of technology advancements and a better world, but as I sit here today I feel like I live in a world filled with more hate than when I was a little kid.

I try not to watch the news anymore because it is seriously depressing.  We can't even believe anything that news reporters say anymore because most of the time, they will skew things just so they can get an edge because ultimately, it means their career will get a boost.

Since when did doing hateful things which hurt other people become something that makes them famous? Why do reporters dwell and dig and dig and dig in news days after a tragedy. Why can't we leave families alone and not remind them of horrible events three, four days later.  Why do we feel the need to have news reporters stuff their cameras in grieving friends and family.  Why do WE feel the need to know what those people are thinking?  I wish when a tragedy happened, more people will focus on praying and supporting and respecting people's privacy, than to exploit human emotions.

Love. Why is that so hard for some people to do and share?  If we all showed just a little bit of love to someone in need, we may be surprised how that can change them.  Just a little bit COUNTS.  I wish I can give some of my love to every single person in this world who is hurting in hopes that maybe, just maybe they don't feel alone.  We need to reach out to people more often, our friends and family, and we need to let them know that we are here for them.  You may think you know what a friend/family member is going through, but we truly don't know.  I know for a fact that there have been many times where I was going through a really hard time and wouldn't share with anyone, even my best friend and even my sister.  To this day, there have been things that no one knows but just me.  Sometimes, I wish if there was that reach out to me, I would have shared and probably have dealt with my issues better.  So since I feel the need for this, I am trying to do that to other people.

So, who will you share your love with today?